Between Personal Brand, Passion, and a Working Mom

what brought me the thoughts is the questions I have got from the YCPA* Juries (and thinking, hey y’all success people, am I really that low in your perception???)

seharusnya kamu mengembangkan personal brand

so, they said I haven’t build my personal brand, I’m a teacher with no specification

well I’m a teacher, I love teaching, I’m learning for teaching, and I’m teaching to learn… I put my effort to make my teaching works, and yet – I should be thinking about branding?

when I think personal communication helps in my teaching, then I’ll be a communicative teacher | when I believe story could present my material in a better way, then i’ll tell a non-stop story | when I can only see that being NotNice would help my students think, then I’ll be the devil | when I know that my students need to construct their own knowledge, then I’ll support them to be creative | if I have 40 students in my classroom, then I hope I can support at least 10% of them to be succeed

you know WHY? because I believe that one day, my student(s) could be my babyboy’s friends, or colleagues, or neighbors, or teacher, or boss, or anyone near him… and the fact that we are all living on the same earth… so you bet I’ll do my best to make sure those guys will do good for the community and our earth… I’m trying to do my best here to become a good teacher – yes – just “good” teacher that promise herself she won’t stop learning to be one..

and yet, all I need is thinking of: PERSONAL BRAND???

apa passionmu? harusnya kan kamu memperjuangkan passion dalam dirimu

Well yes, I do have passions, being a good teacher, become a book author, become a speaker in a conference, and travel around the world

THEN I became a mom, but my passions do not change… they are just getting an extra “MAMA” word in every single item of my passions.. and I am so proud – that is why I am saying it in front of you guys, I am not ashamed that I have to talk about BEING ME and BEING A MOM as a package.. I am learning to build my mama kingdom here, come on – a little bit appreciation?

I wanna be a good teacher-mama, I wanna be a book author-mama, I wanna become a speaker-mama in a conference, and I’d love to be a traveling-mama

BEING A MOM is not a limitation, not a distraction..

a working mom

I suppose that there is also a term called: working dad, right? ^^

ah ok, most women around my neighborhood, they raise their children as a stay-home mom (or working mom at home like sewing or crafting or having a store) and most women around my workplace, they assign the baby care to someone else (family, relatives, daycare)

and I do not belong to any of them..

I do not stay or work at home (unless there is any urgency) and I do not assign my baby care to someone else (unless there is any urgency) so I do see it funny if the mamas are fighting about which condition is better, cause then in both perceptions – I am very wrong! OMG ^^

so recently when I wanted to go to Spain for a conference and book writing meeting, I spent a month of negotiation (the trip was only for 2 weeks haha) no, it was a discussion with my baby, the discussion wasn’t only to assure him that it is ok to live without mama for a while.. but it was also for me to find myself.

yes, my baby was a bit upset.. he kept asking me, If you love me, why do you have to leave me for almost 2 weeks, can you just work (with me) as usual and have fun with me.. i said:

i love you baby, i need to be with you, i will always be with you through my prayers, but like you are you.. you free to have your own dreams and explore the world (when you are old enough to do so) and i am me, i love learning, going to Spain is an opportunity for me to learn something new.. just like you, when you were playing with your friends would it be nice if mama is also playing with you? sure not.. i will be watching you playing and i will be happy for you.. cause you are you… you have your own time… i have mine.. so wish me luck!

well, the arguments were quiet hard, but nice, since he took me to the train station, kissed me goodbye and he were not crying. ^^

*YCPA: a women competition I recently thrown into


Fashion at Work: Jeans?

As a teacher who brings her kid to work, I don’t really pay that much attention to what should I wear to work. I think, the only criteria that matters is the comfort, since I gotta be ready to run for my baby ^^

Batik, traditional cloth of Indonesia

so I usually wears Batik Dress for work. 1) Batik cloth is very comfortable for me. 2) Batik is formal (for teaching, for a meeting, for a seminar, etc..)

But I am not only working a a teacher now.. I do have clients that held meeting outside the office.. so I’m thinking of wearing JEANS to work now..

Image result for jeans


  1. Choose the dark one. Jeans is actually sooooo NOT4Work, so if I gotta wear jeans then I’ll take the dark one, not black, not tye dye, with straight pipe – not boot cut..
  2. Pick a cute top – for the fresh and casual style
  3. I prefer a professional look, so I’ll need a blazer or formal cardigan (which I don’t have it right now) and I think a blazer with bright colour will add some personality (but need more confidence ^^)
  4. Heels. I can go with flats, but I think it is soooo weekend ^^, so I’ll go with heels.
  5. Bold accessories, earrings or necklace..



Bringing Child to Work

i am a lecturer

i – most of the times – bring my son (5yo) to work, especially when i have to go to the campuss but got no class or meeting

-why do I have to bring my son
of all reasons i could think of, basically, it is because i want to be close with my son

[it is not because he wants this very bad.. or that i spoil him for this matter.. he can do very well to be with relatives at home without me..]

-why do i think i could bring my son

>> my son
i think he is good enough at this. i have been bringing him to work since he was a baby.. he has the skill to communicate with grown ups.. he knows (most of the times) how to behave in the campuss.. he likes the foods in the canteen.. he knows he place so well..

>> my workplace
well, i asked the head of department -of course- and she said it is ok to have my son around.. if i have to teach or work at other places i would asked them first about bringing him

-what’s happened then

things are not always nice, although life is beautiful anyway, some people will always say something bad about this.. they usually relate it to NOT being professional, although in my opinion i have done my best to fulfill what becomes my duty (well, i LOVE my job)

if i may compare to friends who have kids and not bringing them to work, and when it is the time in the afternoon they have to run home for their children so they cannot stay at work or even work over time.. well having my son with me, i usually stay until 4 or 5pm working in the campuss.. my son has his own “bed” under my table where he usually takes nap in the afternoon.. yeah, we are fine.. i am fine.. but life is getting harder and harder..

taking critiques is always hard to deal with especially for me.. even my hubby thinks i got 2 (out of 5) of handling critiques #sigh..

my first reaction is – of course – DEFENSE, hey – I can do very well with my life.. bla bla bla.. then random facts – my friends bla bla bla..

but then.. i gotta externalize the critiques, since it might be TRUE in a very tiny portion..

so, ok, let’s give it a shot..

>>> i will look for a teacher to come to my mom’s house to teach him.. let’s say 2 times a week for 4 hours.. somebody who could babysit him..

>>> since he is gonna be 5 yo soon, i think he could choose some courses like English or Music or whatever he likes..

pfffh, united working moms in the world… wish me luck ^^,


Mommy’s Morning Routines


somebody had just asked me what did I do in the morning..

make up?


I smile.. though I really wanna say it out loud.. >>>

i wake up,

make tristan a bottle of milk,

get the laundry,

dry the second laundry,

wake tristan up,

boil his bathing water while washing his bottles,

make a cup of coffee,

prepare my hubby’s uniform,

cook a set of breakfast for tristan (bolognese vegeroni),

prepare the next laundry,

wake my hubby up,

help tristan’s showering..

and prepare myself in 5minutes

oh yeah, i’m a working-mom, what do they know..

i luv my life.. i luv being busy.. i luv to be me..
it’s going to be always hectic.. but that’s my life..